Is there one child in your family that always seems to get lost in the shuffle?
Or maybe there's one child you wish you were able to spend more one-on-one time with?
In our family, that child (on both accounts) happens to be our middle child. She has three younger siblings and three older siblings. She's in the exact middle spot, and she's just five years old.
She needs her mama too. She's easy-going, but spunky. Adorable and super fun. Over the last year, I'd been sensing a sadness in her. A new baby was born into our family last summer, and the two-year-old toddlers demanded so much supervision and extra thought that our precious middle child began to feel the sting of not receiving the time she desired from me.
And I knew it. There were nights I cried because I just knew I couldn't be all everyone needed all the time, especially to this one. The sadness in this little girl was breaking my heart. We share a close and special relationship and I knew she was distraught because her mama was pulled in six other directions each day.
Several months ago, she was sadly lamenting, "We never get to spend any time together just you and me."
I asked, "What sorts of things would you like to do with me, if we had the time?"
That's when the list was born.
The list of all the things we could do, should we have a few moments together. Just the two of us.
- take a walk
- do each other's hair
- play with baby Emmalie
- play a board game
- play My Little Pony
- make a snack
- make lunch together
- paint fingernails and toenails
- read books
- do a craft
- watch a movie
- go on a special date
Is there someone in your life who is needing and desiring time with you? Maybe it's not a child, maybe it's a spouse or parent, friend or sibling. Try making a list of special things you can do together - lay it on their pillow for them to stumble upon, send it in a letter, or present it proudly and see their face light up with expectation.
The gift of time. There's nothing quite like it.